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Sometimes we are taught that we have to be thin, be happy, be outgoing, you name it. I am here to tell you that it is simply okay to be yourself.
Just Be Yourself
I have learned lately that nothing in life can beat being yourself. After trying to please someone else for years and not being successful, I decided to get back to just being myself. Believe me it was harder to do then you think. Here are some things I struggled with.
- Will people like me the way I am?
- Will people think I am being fake because they have never seen me like this really.
- Is this really who I am?
With #1 you may get a little down on yourself. You will question “will people like me” if you act like you have wanted to for years. Will you be good enough or will they hate the way you are? Its a risk. Being yourself despite who you are around or what their background is can be a scary thing because you are putting yourself out there for the whole world to see. What if they don’t like your personality?
Unfortunately we can’t please everyone. Even if you try to and pretend to be someone else not everyone will like you. Once I realized this I realized it is not worth it to pretend to be someone I am not.
Most people know me as a shy, quiet, keep to yourself type person. My closest friends and family know I love hugs, I am rarely quiet, and I love being around people and holding one on one conversations. I love learning about all kinds of different people and how they tick and what makes them, well, them. I wasn’t always as true to myself as I am now though. Most people think I am that shy, quiet, keep to yourself person because that’s the way I acted…for years. I didn’t dare get out of myself and actually be true to who I am. I was myself around certain people, but not around everyone like I am now. Why? Because I let fears get in the way.
With #2 you have to get past it. People will most likely love that you are finally being true to yourself. What if you discover you are funny, philosophical, and smarter than people took you as? What if you discover you know how to be still when everyone thought you were the star of the show all the time? There are so many different ways you can look at this. Be yourself and you give people the real you, and if they don’t like it, there are people out there that will.
#3 you will discover your whole life. You will change over time. That’s the great thing about the human race is that the older we get the more we tend to have learned and understand about life and the better we know ourselves (or we should anyway). If you wonder “is this really who I am” be confident in knowing that no one knows that but you. Look inside yourself. Do you like what you act like? Look like? Do everyday? If not, you may not know how to be yourself. Take some time to learn about you. What do you like? What do you hate? Why? Those are the things I asked myself more after my divorce than before. I am grateful now that I had that time to ask myself those questions, and you know what? I still ask myself those things. I probably always will because I understand that part of life is getting to know myself the way God already knows me.
Be yourself. You won’t regret it, but you may look back on your life one day and regret that you weren’t.